The CC Situation...

The CC situation was a very uncomfortable one for me, and that doesn't happen often. It made me question ME. The way I interact with people every single day. CC was a co-worker of JC's, so he heard some of our conversations ( he even joined a few), and saw the way JC and I interacted. Not once did I feel uncomfortable around CC, until JC left. After that, the way CC acted towards me changed. Nothing that would cause any red flags. At some point we even became Facebook friends. I really didn't mind that he had become a little more attentive and chatty. He would jump on the elliptical or bike next to me and distract me from what I was doing, which I welcomed. Every once in a while he just gave off a really odd vibe that made me uncomfortable. One day his tone of voice changed, and he gave off a really creepy vibe, although all he said was "hey, how are you today?" That was the day the thought popped in my head that he might think that JC and I had a physically intimate relationship, but it was so ridiculous that I pushed the thought aside (why would JC even think of becoming intimate with a married, obese woman 12 years his senior?).

One day, out of the corner of my eye, I saw that CC had split the seam in his shorts. As I walked by, I said something about having his mom fix them. A few hours later, he popped up on facebook messenger and asked me why I was looking at his crotch!! Although I denied purposely looking at his crotch, the conversation quickly went downhill, with him asking about seeing me in ( and out) of my underwear, and even asking about specific sexual favors. When he was informed that no matter how much I joke and play, Hubby and I have been exclusive for 19 years, and other men only got hugs, he quickly ended the conversation and blocked me.

The whole situation made me question my very personality. Could I have said or done something to invite the behavior? Did he think I was flirting with him? Even if he did, he was fully aware that I was married, AND old enough to be his mother. Because I was so shaken by the incident, and needed to know how I was perceived, I emailed JC. He was able to quickly reassure me that he never got a flirty vibe off me...never felt that I was "leading him on", that I was just a friendly woman who he had great conversations with.

Not long after, CC got a second job, and dropped all but one of his weekday shifts. That was when SHy showed up. It was nice to be able to be ME, and not worry about what CC might think, say or do. A few months later, I found out that CC had been similarly inappropriate with another woman at the gym. The lady is an author in her early 40's, and she had given most of the fitness staff a copy of her latest book. CC facebook messaged her and made comments about wanting to reenact one of the sex scenes in the book with her!! That was when I lost all respect for CC.